By Liana Jacob
THIS CURVY WOMAN was bullied by men who would call her a WHALE and send her death threats because of her body but thanks to her confidence she has now found love with a man who loves EVERYTHING about her body.
Healthcare professional, Sierra Mead (19), from New Mexico, USA, who is 20st 10Ibs and a UK size 24, used to feel insecure about her body for years with her high school peers calling her names like ‘whale’, ‘hippo’ and ‘fat’.
For years she would cover her body in shame and over-exert herself during PE lessons at school, but gradually seeing other plus size women on social media flaunting their curves encouraged her to do the same.
Despite receiving negative comments and death threats from strangers online telling her she ‘deserves to die’, in March 2017, her stunning pictures attracted the attention of her now boyfriend, Mason, who was star-struck by her confidence and curves.
Mason, who is 11st 11Ibs and XL and is shirt size XL, says that he’s in love with her and their spark results in their amazing sex life.
“I always thought I was too fat; I felt like I was secretly being judged by people all the time. I wore baggy clothes, I always sucked in my stomach and covered myself,” Sierra said.
“I mainly ate only salads, and always tried to prove my worth by my over-exerting myself in physical activities. I felt like a total outcast all the time.
“Of course, people in school would stare at me and sometimes it seemed like they were laughing too, but no one ever really made comments that I could hear.
“Three separate times that I can recall, different guys called me whale, hippo, or fat b*tch; but I think they just picked up on my insecurity and weaponised that rather than it actually being about my size.
“Seeing other body positive women online is what prompted me to take pictures and inspire others. Seeing someone whose body looked like mine or who was even bigger than me, made me realise my own beauty and self-worth.
“Attractiveness is a spectrum, there is not just one form of beauty, that’s very important for everyone to remember.
“Mason and I met sometime in the beginning of March 2017 on an online dating site. He messaged me first and on the second day I gave him my number.
“The first time we talked I just knew he was the one and we became completely obsessed with each other from then on.
“He was, and still is, such a smart, sensitive, funny, patient, talented, caring, romantic and kind man. I’m sure he would say the same about me because we are so alike.
“He tells me about how beautiful he thought my pictures were and how genuine my profile was. My body confidence has benefitted our relationship; I’m not the type to ‘do it’ in the dark, or bashfully hide behind my top.
“He’s not restricted from touching any part of my body, we are completely open and one with each other.
“I’m sure there might be people who stare because he’s thin and I’m the complete polar opposite of that, but they sure aren’t obvious about it.”
Mason describes their relationship.
“Her online profile first attracted me to Sierra; she was so bubbly, sweet and she knew what she wanted. When we started talking, we couldn’t stop till this day, and just look at her, she’s gorgeous,” he said.
“I love everything about her body; she has such nice soft curves that any man would do a double take on.
“When you’re truly in love, there is a spark that always creates amazing results when you figure out each other’s needs and different turn-ons, it gets crazy.”
Despite Sierra’s new-found body confidence, she has experienced death threats and harsh comments by trolls online which she says has been the hardest part of her journey. She now ignores them.
“People daily, sometimes several people multiple times a day tell me I deserve to die. They say they would laugh and celebrate when I ‘inevitably’ succumb to heart failure or diabetes,” she said.
“It’s shocking to me how angry people can get at a fat woman on the internet, and how they think it’s even remotely okay to treat someone like that.
“I used to argue back with them for hours, but eventually I grew out of it. I don’t have to justify myself to anyone who thinks they have superiority over me because they’re thinner.
“We’re all still human. My advice: filter comments and the ‘block’ button are your friends. I would say, just let people live.
“Fat people know they’re fat, and we know the possible consequences that come with that; we are told constantly by family, doctors, people on the internet, etc.
“You aren’t doing someone a service by bullying them, if they want to change, they should do so on their own terms.
“It’s common sense to be a decent person and not involve yourself in another person’s life; especially if it doesn’t affect you or you don’t even know this person.
“Specifically, body confidence is not promoting obesity. I hear that one religiously. Body confidence is for everyone regardless of size, colour, age, gender, height, disability, etc.
“Body image issues affect literally every single person and it can even result in eating disorders. Loving yourself is more important than you will ever know.
“So, for the people reading this I would say; get dressed up, do your hair, take some pictures, look in the mirror and just focus on what you like about yourself versus what you think needs to be changed.
“At its core, body confidence improves people’s quality of life. It never was and never will be an ‘excuse to stay fat’.”
Follow Sierra on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lilwhalebby/