By Liana Jacob
MEET the polyamorous triad who enjoy having three-way sex TOGETHER with plans to get married and have children in the future despite ALL being open to dating OTHER GIRLS.
Marketing director of his company 420Nurses, Jimmy Silva (31), from California, USA, first started dating his girlfriend, Chacha Va Voom (29), after meeting at high school through a mutual friend and instantly clicking.
In 2012, at a business event, they met their third addition, Summer Pelletier (25), during a casting call. They all liked each other and formed their triad in December that year.
Since then they have been inseparable and are in love, but with their triad ‘open’, they have agreed that it is alright for them to date other girls as a triad, as long as they are honest with each other and all three give the green light.
“Our relationship has no rules with each other. We always love, make out, hold hands, we try to put no limits. We all have sex together and we enjoy it more when it’s all three of us,” Jimmy said.
“There have been a few dates we have gone on but always with other girls and together. All of us enjoy girls, so every so often there is a girl that pops up that we all feel is cute and that she is giving us all equal attention, so we agree to hang out.
“We always let them know that if she doesn’t like all of us together then we can be friends and it ends there.
“If the girls are attracted to all of us and we feel the same, we are open to dating her. We are not a closed triad, but we are not actively looking for a fourth.
“We do have timeouts on each other so when things get really heated we give ourselves some time to reflect and then continue the conversation.
“For me, polyamory means that there is more to life than just normal rules, you can live happy and enjoy a fantasy every day.”
Chacha and Summer explain what being in a triad means to them.
“I have always known that I could love more than one person, I didn’t know what it was called but I knew it was happiness,” Chacha said.
Summer continued: “Since I was young I was always attracted to girls and I always felt like people didn’t care much about me or love me.
“Being in a polyamory triad relationship means there is never any down time. I always have someone to turn to and I am always loved.”
Jimmy explains what plans they have for the future and how each of their family has reacted to their relationship.
“We hope to get married in the future we are really in love and we want to have babies. We are in Los Angeles which is very liberal, and I don’t ever see any negative reactions it’s usually people telling me how lucky I am,” he said.
“Summer’s family is really open, modern and accepting, Chacha’s family is okay with it but they rather not talk about it.
“My family are not open, as they are very conservative, but they are slowing warming up to the idea six years later.
“We have gone to other states like in Utah where all three of us were holding hands and a lady at the market kind of shrugged her shoulders but that was probably the worst reaction we’ve received.
“Don’t get in a triad just because it’s the new thing to do or you think that it’s a cool idea. When you find someone that makes you feel happy and you and your partner feels the same way then it’s a green light and you should go for it.
“Stay honest with each other, it’s the only way a triad relationship can work. Honesty and respect is the only way.”