Justine found that many women are too afraid to speak about pregnancy loss. MDWfeatures / Justine Zampogna

By Alyce Collins

 

THIS MOTHER has shared her heart-breaking pregnancy loss story after noting how many women FEAR speaking out about miscarriages or stillbirth and instead suffer a ‘lonely loss’ in silence.

 

Hypnobirthing companion, Justine Zampogna (28) from Perth, Australia, received the devastating news in August 2018 that her unborn baby’s brain had stopped growing, giving Justine the option to either terminate at 15 weeks or deliver her daughter full term, who would survive only a matter of hours.

Justine kissing Gigi after delivering her at 16 weeks.
MDWfeatures / Justine Zampogna

 

Justine and her husband Ty, who have been together since they were 16 years old, had their first child, Chase, in January 2016, and began trying for a second in April 2018.

 

Justine and Ty were ecstatic to be expecting again and couldn’t help but get excited when they found out they were having a little girl. Having always loved the name Gia, they had already given her that name, while Chase nicknamed his mother’s bump Gigi.

Chace nicknamed his mum’s tummy as Gigi, after they originally chose the name Gia.
MDWfeatures / Justine Zampogna

 

Having been away for their 12-week scan, Justine reorganised it for 14 weeks, but a call soon followed, urging her and Ty to get to the doctors immediately.

 

The scan revealed that Gigi had anencephaly, a fatal neural tube defect which means that if a baby makes it to full term, he or she can only survive a few hours. At 16 weeks, Justine had to take a pill which stopped the placenta from working, and then deliver her baby that same week.

Justine is sharing her story of pregnancy loss to help other women because she felt incredibly lonely.
MDWfeatures / Justine Zampogna

 

Justine has shared her family’s story on her blog and Instagram after noticing how few people talk about pregnancy and infant loss, leading her to feel incredibly lonely. As heart-breaking as her experience was, Justine has found the beauty in it and wants to help others feel less alone and not be silenced.

 

“When we found out we were pregnant a second time, I was just so excited and felt so unbelievably grateful to be a mum again,” said Justine.

Ty and Justine spent six hours with Gigi after delivering her naturally.
MDWfeatures / Justine Zampogna

 

“I was so sick for the initial 12 weeks, so much sicker than with my son. But I was starting to feel so excited because we had just got our harmony test back and found out that it was all perfect and we were having a baby girl.

 

“I remember thinking to myself that it all seemed way too good to be true, but we were on cloud nine.

Justine explained to Chace that his sister was with the angels now.
MDWfeatures / Justine Zampogna

 

“My husband and I loved the name and meaning of Gia. It means ‘gift from God’. Chase just always referred to my belly as Gigi though, so it felt natural to call her that.

 

“We had our 12-week scan at 14 weeks as we were away, and then I got a call to say that Ty and I needed to go straight to the doctors. I knew in this moment that it wasn’t good.

Justine cradled her pregnancy bump before receiving the devastating news.
MDWfeatures / Justine Zampogna

 

“So, at the end of my fourteenth week we were confronted with having to terminate our baby girl. Anencephaly is a fatal neural tube defect and the baby can only stay alive for a few hours post birth, and that’s if they make it to full term.

 

“We were sent to two major women’s pregnancy and birth hospitals here in Perth and we were given two options, either to birth her at the hospital or be referred to a clinic to have a dilation and curettage (D&C).

Justine with Chace.
MDWfeatures / Justine Zampogna

 

“There’s no right or wrong way, but for me personally I knew I had to stay authentic to myself and birth her to get the closure I truly needed.

 

“Two days before being induced, I had to take a pill called Mifepristone which basically stops the placenta from working.

Justine with her husband Ty and their son, Chace.
MDWfeatures / Justine Zampogna

 

“That moment when I took the pill had to be the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my entire life, but as part of the process of birthing her I had to do it. It was so tough to swallow that pill when I knew what it was going to do.

 

“Preparing for Gigi’s birth involved an incredible amount of strength. In only five days I had to accept that she was no longer ever going to be mine Earth side. During my preparation, I couldn’t find any information that was real or relatable, it was only scientific.”

The Mifepristone pill that Justine took days before delivering Gigi.
MDWfeatures / Justine Zampogna

 

On August 27, 2018, Justine was induced and gave birth to Gigi. Following the birth, the nurses wanted to monitor Justine, meaning her and Ty spent the entire six-hour period with Gigi.

 

Justine believes that being open about her experience has made it easier to cope because it gave her a purpose, to stop other women from suffering in silence.

The moment Justine took the pill which would stop her placenta from developing. MDWfeatures / Justine Zampogna

 

“The more I heal, the more I realise that what happened to us could only ever be beautiful,” said Justine.

 

“I cried throughout the entire delivery, but my tears weren’t from saying goodbye, they were from accepting she was gone. It was so heartbreakingly beautiful and the closure that we needed. I felt like after everything we had been through, we deserved to have our very own birth story too.

Justine and Ty had just five days from finding out about Gigi’s condition and delivering her, still born.
MDWfeatures / Justine Zampogna

 

“Her sweet little soul hadn’t spent more than a day on Earth, but she touched my heart so deeply. That is love in its most traumatic yet pure form. We only had a brief moment together, but in that moment, we were bonded together for life. My son didn’t meet Gigi, we had already told him that she was in the stars.

 

“It wasn’t until I lived my new normal for a couple of months that I understood why pregnancy loss is given the term ‘lonely loss’. It’s not like a loss where everyone around you had a connection with that person and you can all feel the emotions and support each other.

Justine in hospital during the delivery.
MDWfeatures / Justine Zampogna

 

“The biggest thing that shocked me was how many women and men suffer in silence. After I shared my first blog post, so many reached out to me telling me they thought they couldn’t speak about their baby because they never made it Earth side.

 

“We as mums are the only ones who have ever had that connection with our unborn babies and visualised our entire life with them.

Justine and Ty after delivering Gigi.
MDWfeatures / Justine Zampogna

 

“At the end of the day, at some stage we had something and then all of a sudden it’s gone. We’re entitled to feel sad and mourn their loss for as long as we need.

 

“Women should do whatever they feel they need to do to heal – name your baby, speak about your baby and make a big deal out of the day you birthed them. We should speak about them forever and always.

Justine holding Gigi’s small body, as she hopes to raise awareness and encourage other women to speak about their experiences.
MDWfeatures / Justine Zampogna

 

“I want women to know they aren’t alone and to see the beauty in the heartbreak. Their angel babies are important no matter how far along they were in their journey, so never be silenced.”

 

Visit Justine’s Instagram @justinezampogna, or her blog Dream Your Baby.

 

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