By Liana Jacob
MEET THE unconventional couple that get mistaken for daddy and daughter due to their TWENTY-THREE-YEAR age gap and are now expecting their first child.
Barmaid, Chelsee Moore Thompson (30), from Manchester, UK, first met her partner, Gary Raglan (53), from Macclesfield, UK, in 2014 when she was 26-years-old, and he was 49-years-old at a beach club in Tenerife, where she had been living at the time, through a mutual friend.
Due to Chelsee’s history of dating older men, her friend thought they would be well-suited. Gary did most of the chasing initially because Chelsee was apprehensive about the age gap at first, as he was the oldest man she had been with.
After six months of continuous dating, Chelsee agreed to move back to Tenerife to live with him. Since they had a big age gap, they decided to discuss children at the beginning of their relationship, but were both happy without any children, as Gary already has two sons (now 21 and 13).
At the beginning of their relationship, Chelsee’s parents were initially shocked by the age gap but knew Chelsee had always liked older men, and soon came to realise they love each other and gave them their blessing.
In July 2017, Chelsee and Gary changed their minds and decided they wanted to have children but in December that year, Chelsee suffered a miscarriage, which caused the distraught couple to push each other away in grief.
As Chelsee was approaching 30, they decided they would try again and in March 2018, Chelsee fell pregnant again and they are now due a baby boy in mid-November.
“I met my partner at a beach club through a friend in Tenerife. She knew I always liked older guys and said she wanted me to meet someone,” Chelsee said.
“I’ve lived on and off for eleven years in Tenerife and I was just back over for the summer. Instantly we hit it off.
“He chased me and kept asking me out on dates and I was worried because the age gap was so big. Even though I’d always been with older guys, never that big.
“We dated for six months before I moved back here to be with him and we’ve been together for four years since.
“We had a lot in common and we had similar interests in terms of food, travel, wine and good restaurants.
“My parents were shocked about his age at first, but they soon realised how happy I was. His kids were accepting towards me.
“Because of the age gap we had to talk about kids early on to see if we were both on the same page; I’d never wanted kids and he already had two, so we were both happy to not have any.
“Then about eighteen months ago we both changed our minds and decided it was what we wanted. I was getting closer to thirty and started worrying that my clock was ticking.
“I was questioning what I wanted out of life and Gary kept telling me I’d be a great mum and he wanted me to experience that.
“We had a miscarriage in December 2017 and that nearly tore us apart. Neither of us dealt with it well and we pushed each other away.
“We got through it and tried again, and I fell pregnant in March, now we’re due a baby boy in six weeks.
“I’m more excited than Gary because he’s been in this position twice before, but I think he’s more excited for me.
“I have nervous spells where I worry about being a good mum and our relationship holding out while we have a baby while our lifestyle has been used to doing what we want when we want and going out a lot.”
While Chelsee’s parents were doubtful at first about their relationship, they are now excited to be grandparents.
“My parents are excited to become grandparents and his kids are excited to have a younger brother and everyone has accepted it,” Chelsee said.
“His eldest son lives close by; we get on great, I’m more like his friend than the dreaded ‘step mum’. His youngest is thirteen and we have him over in school holidays and we have bonded more over the years, but I think it was difficult for us both with him being younger.
“I never wanted to get married before and he never has been before. But now we’re having a child I would like to get married to have the same name as my baby and partner; nothing fancy, I would only want low key. But I may have to work on him for that.”
The couple, who are expecting, have been mistaken for father and daughter in the past, that worried them before, but they have now learnt to ignore the stares.
“I think age gap relationships have become so much more common the last few years. At first, we used to both worry about people looking at us and staring, some people presuming we were father and daughter,” Chelsee said.
“After the first few months you get past that and don’t notice it anymore. Most people still question the age gap but then respond with ‘well age is just a number, as long as you’re happy’, which I completely agree with.
“I’m very old headed for my age and he is quite immature at times, so I always think we meet down the middle.
“I don’t feel like there’s over twenty years between us. We’re on the same page in a lot of ways. We like and want the same things out of life.
“Now having a child, I have worried about him not being around for as long as I will, and me being on my own when I get to my fifties and sixties maybe.
“But I’ve always said I would rather be happy and have the many years I’ll have with him than never have given things a go because I was worried about the future.
“As long as you’re happy, someone treats you right and your love for each other is the same, then why should a number be an issue? I’m a strong believer that a good relationship can work whatever the situation.”