By Rebecca Drew
THIS POLYAMOROUS couple invited another woman to join their family after meeting on Instagram to make a family of five and she even hopes to have children with the pair despite her own parents not approving of her joining the open-minded couple.
Administrative support, Kori Baker (27) and maintenance technician, Stephen Pape (28) from Phoenix, Arizona, USA, had been together for ten-years when they met their girlfriend, photographer, Katarina Kearns (26) last year through Instagram after the two women bonded over their love for yoga and photography.
For their first meet up, they all met at the park where Katarina took pictures of Kori practicing yoga whilst Stephen and their children, Payson (8) and Hadlee (2) played around them. The three adults instantly clicked and soon fell in love, deciding to form a triad in November last year.
The throuple consider their relationship to be like any other monogamous one and have sex, go on dates and trips away together. Kori and Stephen gave Katarina a promise ring just before Christmas to symbolise their love for her, with Hadlee and Payson loving the additional attention and love they receive from their new “mama” Katarina.
“Polyamory means dating more than one person at one time. In our case, we are a closed triad, some choose to have an open relationship, but we do not. So, the three of us is dating each other equally,” explained Kori.
“It means an abundance of love but also communication and understanding. Opening up to things like desires, fantasies, needs, issues, and concerns within the tribe or one person themselves, we are all here for each other. Everyone brings something to our tribe.
“We are very happy, outgoing, positive people. We love to be outdoors, stay active with yoga, mountain biking, and hiking. We met through Instagram since Kori is a yogi and Kat is a photographer so we got together and took photos while Stephen and the kids played at the park we were at. We have a lot of things in common, so we always have a good time when we’re together.
“We just clicked and the more we all hung out we said let’s give a shot. And it’s worked out really well.
“We do as much possible together as a triad. We think of our relationship is as normal as most monogamous relationships, just with three people.
“Whether it’s date nights, weekend trips up north, even sex, we do it all together. We’re just lucky enough to have three.
“The children love it, and they love Kat, they get lots of love and attention and Kat does an amazing job with them.
“We always tell people she’s the missing piece to our puzzle, that we didn’t even know was missing.”
The throuple have been together for around ten months now and their families are mostly accepting of their setup. They say that they communicate openly with each other to eliminate any feelings of jealousy that may arise. One day, Kat would like to have children with the couple to add to their tribe.
“Stephen’s family is very accepting. I have lesbian mum(s) so they are understanding, my father gave me some crap about how he doesn’t understand but it’s not his life,” added Kori.
“Unfortunately, Kat’s parents have not been so positive and understanding. They don’t approve yet, but we hope they come around eventually. Most of our siblings, extended family, and friends have all been very accepting and loving toward us.
“In the beginning, yes there was some jealousy but that’s where lots of communication helps. You have to speak what your feeling or those feelings never get resolved.
“We definitely have our serious conversations when someone is feeling jealous or upset.
“Kat said she would have kids with us and we would love to add to the tribe when were all ready.
“We are humans just like everyone else. We seek love and happiness. We were just brave enough to open our hearts and give love to more than one person, and that makes us unique beings.
“Our love and choices may not follow the ‘social norm’, but that doesn’t make our love wrong.”
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