By Liana Jacob
THIS COUPLE married ONE WEEK AFTER THEY FIRST MET and have since invited a woman TWENTY-THREE YEARS his junior to join their relationship.
On May 14, 2012, marketing entrepreneur, Rodrigo Contreras Diaz (41) from Monterrey City, Mexico, met his now wife, nutritionist, Melin Velasco Reyes (31) from Guadalajara City, through a mutual friend.
Sparks flew instantly and Rodrigo ended up proposing to Melin that same day, to which she agreed. After just a week of preparations, they got married on May 21, 2012. Despite only having eyes for her, he explained to her early on in their relationship that he didn’t want a traditional monogamous relationship as he lived an alternative lifestyle and was open to a polyamorous relationship, which she accepted.
For four years they focussed on their relationship then re-visited their exploration of other forms of partnerships and searched for another woman to join them in their union.
On April 27, 2016, whilst they were both at a bar, they met one of the waitresses, Lucy (18), who was in high school at the time. Initially Lucy was shocked when Rodrigo began flirting with her in front of Melin, but after a few hours of chatting, they became closer and formed a polyamorous relationship.
Since then, he admits that the addition of Lucy has positively improved his marriage with Melin and they now all plan to get married as a throuple, although Melin and Lucy, who are both straight, do not have a sexual relationship.
“A cousin of Melin’s was my friend, and during one of their parties we met and were hooked. So much so, that a week after we got married. It was love at the first sight,” Rodrigo said.
“From very early on [in our relationship] I told her that I didn’t want a traditional relationship because my lifestyle is a little bit alternative and I don’t believe in monogamy as a way of life.
“She accepted it but just asked me to first live and enjoy our own love; to press pause so that we can allow some time for our relationship to flourish and see where things go.
“When we reached the fourth year of our marriage, when the routines of every relationship gets boring, she wanted to talk about that pause we put.
“Then I started to talk and together we read about polyamorous love, even about swinger relationships but this wasn’t for us as we wanted more, and we need emotional connections.
“Then one day we went to a rock bar, and one waitress (Lucy) caught our attention. We had a little talk, then I started to show my interest in this girl.
“We started showing her flirtatious signs by taking her hands, giving her hugs. Lucy was shocked; we noticed she looked confused with the flirtations and at same time she noticed that I was very close to Melin.
“Nothing happened that day, but we became regular visitors of that bar. Lucy was still shocked but never asked anything; she was just flirting openly with us.
“At that time, there was a very good vibe between the three of us, so I move on to suggest we one day maybe go out as friends not just as waitress and bar clients, and Lucy said, ‘Yes! Add me on WhatsApp then figure out what to do and where to go.’
“We spent some great times together; walking, eating, playing, laughing (I asked not to drink alcohol that day, because if something came from it, even a smile I wanted to live it raw without anything in our bodies other than joy).”
They are now all planning on getting married despite society being against their relationship and would be open to having children in the future.
“As a triad our plan is to become closer every day, not only in terms of distance but in our hearts and our feelings,” Rodrigo said.
“We want to make a short film that expresses the realities of polylove, we note that the stereotype that is handled in the cinema about polyamory differs a lot from reality, and that is why we would like to make a short film that goes deeper into the human aspect of life shared to three hearts.
“Our relationship is like any other, a relationship where we support each other, we understand and love each other, with the simple difference that my wife approves and applauds it, likewise there is love and understanding between them as well as a lot of respect.
“Certainly, there are many opinions about our relationship from our families, but respect and acceptance have always prevailed, as well as some there is some admiration and confusion. We always tell them, ours is different but just as important as any love.
“For us, the true commitment of our relationship lies in our hearts and in our sense of unity, but never on paper. The three of us are the same unit now, and we want to celebrate it socially with marriage.
“Between the three of us we don’t have children, but we haven’t ruled it out, we are travellers and we want to get to know at least fifty countries together before thinking about having children.
“This type of relationship is not like an eternal threesome; beyond the bed is the complexity of the human being with his feelings and his thoughts, we do not like to be stereotyped as a trio of promiscuous beings.”