By Rebecca Drew
THIS MUM-OF-TWO has received death threats and been accused of abusing her children for practicing natural term breastfeeding which has seen her breastfeed her daughters on demand for FIVE YEARS but says no mum should feel ashamed of the act.
Lactation consultant, Melissa Ostroth (34) from Toledo, Ohio, USA, always knew she would breastfeed her children after seeing her own mother breastfeed her brothers when she was a child.
Melissa and her husband, Steve (34) have two daughters together, Emilia (4) and Wrenly (2) and she has been practicing natural term weaning, meaning she lets her children decide when they wish to stop breastfeeding. Melissa has been breastfeeding for five years with just a three-month break between her two daughters after her eldest self-weaned whilst Melissa was 20-weeks pregnant with Wrenly because she didnāt like the taste of colostrum.
Melissa breastfeeds on demand, which can be anywhere between six to 10 times per day and she shares her journey on Instagram under the handle @milkitivity_. She hopes to be an inspiration to other mums to show them that they shouldnāt feel ashamed of breastfeeding their children past the age of one year.
The mum-of-two has lots of likeminded followers on social media who support her message but she has been subjected to abuse from cruel trolls online who have sent her death threats, accused her of child abuse, told her sheās only breastfeeding for her own benefit and that she needs to cut the cord.
Melissa, who has studied infant nutrition for four years, says the biggest misconception surrounding natural term or extended breastfeeding is that breastmilk declines in nutritional value as a child gets older, something Melissa says is not the case.
āBreastmilk changes with a childās needs and age. Thatās the beauty of breastfeeding. It increases in proteins lactoferrin, lysozyme and immunoglobulin A. It also continues to provide 29 per cent of energy requirements, 43 per cent of protein requirements, 36 per cent of calcium requirements, 75 per cent of vitamin A requirements, 76 per cent of folate requirements, 94 per cent of vitamin B12 requirements, 60 per cent of vitamin C requirements,ā said Melissa.
āBreastmilk provides all the immunoglobulins the immune system takes to develop, which takes around five years. Why? Because we were designed to continue breastfeeding past infancy. Aside from the health benefits, breastfeeding is more than just food. It is comfort, a natural anti-anxiety, a sleep aid, natural anxiety, and a bonding love.
āI breastfed my first until I was 20 weeks pregnant when she self-weaned. My milk turned back into colostrum and she didnāt like the taste of it. I remember watching my mother breastfeed my brothers. Iāve always felt comfortable breastfeeding; I know that was the right decision for our family.
āOnline I receive a lot of positive feedback, but also some very negative and hateful remarks. In public, Iāve been thanked for breastfeeding my child without a cover and not in a bathroom.
āI receive many negative comments, even death threats and requests that I kill myself. The internet can be rough, but the positives keep me going. The messages where a mom tells me that they needed to hear that today, and because of my post they have the confidence to keep breastfeeding as they had intended to.
āOne of the biggest questions and concerns I receive after the mother has established breastfeeding is, āwhat do I say to the negative comments I receive about planning or currently breastfeeding my toddler?ā
āSo many mothers, including myself, have had to endure comments and questions such as; āwhen are you going to cut the cord?ā or, āyou know thereās no benefits from breastfeeding past x amount of months.ā or, āat this point youāre just doing it for yourself.ā Even worse comments like āthis is borderline abusive, and CPS should be called on you.ā
āIn todayās society it seems the majority are uneducated and do not understand natural term weaning, although weāve been doing this since the beginning of time. Society has a tendency to sexualise extended breastfeeding or have the idea that itās all for the motherās own benefit.
āI manage a breastfeeding and parenting support page and as soon as a child over the age of one is featured breastfeeding, the shaming comments start rolling in.ā
Melissa is dedicated to practicing natural term weaning and explained how breastfeeding a toddler is a new challenge.
āIt comes with a whole new set of challenges. Some (like mine) will want to continue to breastfeed every two to three hours. Although these sessions tend to be shorter, they tend to be rougher and the child is more easily distracted,ā she said.
āJust like any child they will also want to nurse at inconvenient times, they just happen to be much bigger and vocal. With an older child you usually have to instil boundaries which can be hard.
āThere are so many opinions surrounding natural term weaning. Many mothers hide the fact they are still breastfeeding. I want mothers to know they are not alone, to remind them of the benefits, why they should feel comfortable to continue to breastfeed, and give them some answers they can tell others who ask them about it.ā
Finally, Melissa spoke about what she wants to achieve through Instagram.
āI hope to spread factual breastfeeding information. There is so much misinformation about breastfeeding. Women need the facts, they need the support, and they need a non-judgmental community,ā she said.
āWhen it comes to extended breastfeeding, I want people to know the facts. I want them understand why mothers decide to parent in this way. Itās not for ourselves, itās not always easy, but itās what works for our family.
āWe do it for the benefits physically and emotionally. And yes, we both benefit from it. We do it because both our child and we desire to do it.
āItās ok to want to continue to breastfeed past infancy.
āItās not taboo, itās not unnatural, and itās not selfish. Our child still has a need and we are responding to that.ā
For more information see www.instagram.com/milkitivity_
