By Liana Jacob
MEET THE PLUS SIZE woman who has re-discovered her confidence after stumbling into a modelling career and whose skinny lover describes their sex life as EXPLOSIVE.
Merchant advisor, Nikki Baker (28), from Ohio, USA, grew up as ‘fat’ her entire life which has subjected her to being teased by her peers. The years of being bullied has left her with thick skin and after being scouted by a modelling photographer in 2009, she decided to embrace her body with pride.
Despite being bullied in the past for her size, her confidence has now peaked, and she now wants to encourage other women to embrace their bodies. She has discovered many positive traits that have increased her confidence, particularly regarding her love life. At 30st and a UK size 32 to 34, she insists that she prefers to date skinny men, as being with a man of her build would limit her sex life.
She has been casually dating a man called Brandon Noland, who admits that their sex life is ‘explosive’, and he was initially attracted to Nikki for her confidence.
“I could tell right away that she loves her body and has a lot of confidence. That and her dyed hair and fashion sense were what initially attracted me to her the most,” Brandon said.
“I think what I love the most about her body is the way it feels. She’s soft and has a particular texture that makes touching her just wonderful. It’s really hard to pick just one thing here though, there’s a lot to love about Nikki’s body.
“Our sex life is pretty explosive, we’re still in the early stages of getting to know and exploring each other, and we’re both pretty well-suited for each other and capable of making each other feel great. It’s a blast.”
Nikki says that while she has always had confidence in herself, the road to embracing her body hasn’t always been smooth.
“I’ve been fat my entire life. I’ve gotten ridiculed by strangers and loved ones alike, and to be honest, it messed me up pretty badly,” Nikki said.
“I grew up confident, at first. My mum always tells this story about me in the playground when I was about five years old.
“Apparently, some kid was making fun of me being fat while we were playing after school and I stopped, looked at them, and said, ‘I could beat you up right now, but I won’t.’
“I just smiled and walked away. I lost that confidence for a little while in my teen years, but I think that’s a pretty accurate reflection of my current attitude towards the haters.
“I don’t want to call anyone out directly, but my mum was and is the only one who has always been supportive of me. As long as I’m happy and healthy, then she is happy for me.
“Strangers gawk, point and whisper; especially if I’m wearing a short dress or some short shorts. But, let’s be serious, you can tell I’m fat regardless of whether I’m wearing sweat pants and a t-shirt, or a bikini. So why does it matter?
“I’ve had the side glances and whispers from family members, being told I’m going to get as big as a house, things like that.
“This was all when I was very young and very impressionable. A second grader shouldn’t be starving themselves because they’re worried about what their own family will say.
“I think when I was around nineteen-years-old, I had a revelation. I realised that this is the body I have, and I can’t let others dictate whether I love myself or not.
“So, I slowly started buying clothes that actually fit me, (Not just baggy t-shirts and skinny jeans), I began to dabble in makeup and then I began modelling for Jesse Fox.
“I saw her searching for a plus sized model. So, I went for it. My first real modelling ‘gig’ was in a bra and skirt, and it was low-key awesome.
“I remember sitting naked in her living room, with her then-husband, and not having a worry in the world. Before then, I’d never been naked in front of anyone.
“I felt less judged and more beautiful in the nude than I did walking down the street fully clothed in the past.
Nikki explains how her confidence and body has helped with her sex life.
“From what I’ve heard, most men I have relationships with are drawn to me because of my confidence,” Nikki said.
“The sex with skinny men is usually pretty damn awesome and, I kind of love the shock factor when I walk in somewhere with a ‘conventionally attractive’ significant other, and people gawk at us holding hands or being affectionate.
“Due to the way that I am built; sex can tend to be a little difficult if the other person also has a belly on them. I know plenty of super-sized big beautiful women (SSBBW) that prefer bigger men; but for me, I feel like it would just limit the number of adventurous things we could try if there’s too much in the way.”
Nikki has a message for those that criticise her for her body and confidence and to other plus size women.
“I feel like if you’re offended by my comfort in my own skin, you should maybe take a step back and figure out why it bothers you to see someone that loves themselves,” she said.
“I know it sounds weird, but to see the confusion on someone’s face when they realise that I’m fat as hell, I’m a vegetarian and I exercise – it is hilarious.
“It has been a long and hard process. It’s difficult enough being a fat woman. But being a fat woman that openly loves herself? People act as if my confidence somehow steals their own.
“You are beautiful. Plain and simple. Every imperfection, every dimple, every stretch mark, scar, what have you. They make you who you are.”