Victoria, Robert and Destiny (left to right). Robert McCoy / MDWfeatures

By Rebecca Drew

 

THIS POLYAMOROUS couple have invited another woman to join their five-year relationship after he met their new girlfriend at work and they want to show the world that true love has no limits or boundaries.

 

Highschool sweethearts, automotive technician, Robert McCoy (22) and Victoria Gibson (23) from Fresno, California, USA, first met at a local skatepark in 2012 one day after school and they soon fell head-over-heels in love with each other and bonded over their shared love of the outdoors and adventurous activities.

Robert, Victoria and Destiny (left to right).
Robert McCoy / MDWfeatures

 

When Robert met receptionist, Destiny Griffin (22) through work in May this year the three started to hang around together and bonded over their similar interests and have officially been in a closed triad since August.

 

The three all see love as an emotion that shouldn’t be limited and say that the best thing about being in a romantic relationship with each other is that there is twice as much love as there is in a traditional monogamous relationship.

The three love the great outdoors.
Robert McCoy / MDWfeatures

 

Now the triad are focussed on growing stronger together and one day plan to get married and start a family together.

 

“Morally speaking, society has embedded monogamy into the depths of individuals and shuns those who say they love more than one person. I believe love and all other emotions have no boundaries or limits, so why not love as much as you can love,” said Robert.

The three fell in love after they discovered that they had similar interests.
Robert McCoy / MDWfeatures

 

“We have not always been a triad. Me and Victoria were together for a little over five years before we got with Destiny. Me and Victoria met at the skatepark while we were in high school. Me and destiny met through work.

 

“We fell in love as a triad after many, many long nights of talking and getting to know each other. Destiny is very, very open minded, but at the same time had plenty of questions on the true working of potentially being in a triad and perusing a relationship.

Robert, Destiny and Victoria (left to right).
Robert McCoy / MDWfeatures

 

“I also see so much beauty in breaking free of what society says is ‘okay’ and showing people that life is what you make of it, not what most people say it should be.

 

“This is not how I imagined life, yet now that it is here, I can’t imagine anything different. The thought of a closed poly triad family unit is beautiful to me. I enjoy the idea of family and lots of it, but I feel abandoned by one half so making a new open-minded family is everything to me.

Robert, Victoria and Destiny enjoy outside activities.
Robert McCoy / MDWfeatures

 

“I do want to become a family person, but with those who also share that same want with me. A functioning unit will have much parental, monetary, and emotional support, given we all keep good open communication and grow together as a triad.”

 

Destiny continued: “Since being in a triad, I’ve been able to open my mind to see that there’s more to life and love than what people really think. The connection goes so much deeper and having two people by my side each day just deepens the connection we have.

 

“Thinking back to a year ago, I would’ve never thought of myself being in a triad because it sounded foreign and it’s looked down upon to want to be with two people at once. People ask me how it is being with two people, I tell them that I receive double of everything while being able to give double of everything; love, affection, support.

Robert, Victoria and Destiny.
Robert McCoy / MDWfeatures

 

“Being in a triad can be complicated at times but it never takes away from the good times that we have. I love my two and the life that we have built together so far.”

 

Robert, Victoria and Destiny’s families are all accepting of their non-conventional relationship. Victoria explained how her family took the news and spoke about how the triad navigate any natural feelings of jealousy that may arise.

 

“My family is okay with pretty much everything I do as long as I’m happy and okay,” she said.

The triad bonded over their shared interests.
Robert McCoy / MDWfeatures

 

“I do get jealous, but I realise that it’s small natural jealousy and I never let it become an issue. I’m really working on being able to discuss my feelings of jealousy when they come up so we can work through them together.

 

“In the future I plan on having a beautiful family with my partners and having a house big enough to fit us all comfortably.”

 

Robert added: “I don’t get jealous. To me it was a beautiful thing watching the person I love fall in love.”

“And at this point it’s even more beautiful watching the two girls I love work together and provide for each other in ways I never could. Something about the way a woman cares and nurtures can never be recreated, especially by me.”

 

Destiny spoke about how she deals with feelings of jealousy within their unit: “Jealousy is a natural feeling that a human will always feel sometime in their life. In a triad, it’s very important to recognise, acknowledge, and talk about where each other are when it comes to jealousy.”

 

“It will happen and it’s important to let that person know that they are still loved and is not left out. There have been times when I got jealous. I would crave someone’s attention while they are giving or receiving attention from or to the other, but at the end of the day, they’ve never failed to attack me with love and just show that I’m still important.

Robert and Victoria were together for five years before they both fell in love with Destiny.
Robert McCoy / MDWfeatures

“In our relationship, there’s not much jealously, except little things which can be easily talked about. The key to keeping jealousy at a minimum is to find a balance that fits everyone’s needs.”

 

Robert, Victoria and Destiny share their love story on their Instagram page.

 

Finally, Robert talked about the reaction he receives from the people he tells about his relationship and highlighted that happiness is completely individual and personal.

 

“My reactions would mainly depend of the gender of the person I tell. Most females are rather curious, ask questions, give their views on it and we can really have a good conversation about the ideology of polyamory,” he said.

 

“Guys on the other hand don’t see very further than the sexual aspect of the relationship. They also don’t initially see the emotion and effort that goes into being in my position but rather see it as a status symbol or ego booster.

The three love to keep active.
Robert McCoy / MDWfeatures

“Most of the time I won’t really talk about it with other guys because my emotions do run very strong for these girls and I like to express how I feel about them, not answer sexual questions or not be taken seriously as far as my relationship goes.

 

“The one message I would like to convey would have to be that an individual’s happiness lays strictly in their hands; nobody knows what will make you happier than you know yourself.

 

“Regardless of whatever backlash you may receive, no matter who it is, stand strong for what makes you happy as a person.”

 

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