By Rebecca Drew
THIS COUPLE are planning a wedding despite a TWENTY-THREE-YEAR age gap and the fact that his three daughters no longer want to be in his life because of his choice of partner.
Manufacturing operator and nursing student, Marissa Almanza (24) and supervisor, Bruce Nelson (47) from Wisconsin, USA, first met at work almost five-years-ago. Neither were looking for a relationship at the time and say that it wasnāt ālove at first sightā but they soon became each otherās favourite co-worker, making plans outside of work to take their dogs for walks, going fishing and boating and going on food dates.
Marissa was first attracted to Bruceās smile and laugh, whilst he was first attracted to her passion for life and honesty. Since falling in love, the pair havenāt let their 23-year age gap come between them and they are planning to tie the knot next year.
Marissaās mum and dad were unsure about their daughterās choice of partner at first but after seeing how well Bruce looked after her, they warmed to their relationship. The majority of Bruceās family have welcomed Marissa with open arms but his three daughters, aged 15, 19 and 21, from his previous marriage have chosen not to be in his life since the couple started dating four-and-a-half-years-ago.
For Marissa and Bruce, their relationship is the same as any other relationship without an age gap, with neither of them prepared to turn off their feelings based on someone elseās opinion.
āWe met at work, he was my co-worker and I loved that he was always so kind, understanding, and had such a positive attitude,ā said Marissa.
āHe quickly became my favourite co-worker and we started making plans to spend time outside of work; taking the dogs for a walk, fishing, boating, and food dates here and there.
āUpon first meeting, we did not have the ālove at first sightā thing because we were at work and we both werenāt looking for a relationship at the time.
āI love his smile and his laugh, itās still my favourite thing today and his beautiful blue eyes.
āBruce says that he was first amazed by my beautiful smile and he loved my passion for life and animals. What got him was my ability to be honest in any situation and it truly blew him away even when I was in the wrong.
āAt first my mum and dad were judgemental about it, for like a week, but they saw how happy he truly made me and how he treated me and how playful and lovey we are so they quickly changed their minds.
āMy whole family has never been rude or judgemental to him or us, which I am so thankful for.
āBruceās mum, step dad, dad, and step mum and his cousin have all been wonderful to me and open armed.
āThe relationship was a bit rocky with his brother, but weāve noticed they are finally coming around slowly but surely. Sadly, Bruceās three daughters from his previous marriage choose not to be in his life at all since they found out he was dating me.ā
Busy planning their wedding, the couple arenāt sure about children just yet as Marissa wants to finish her nursing training but is aware that Bruce isnāt getting any younger.
Finally, Marissa hit back at people who donāt understand her relationship and laughs off strangers who mistake them for father and daughter.
āWe actually just picked our wedding day and plan to get hitched next year. Kids Iām still on the fence about, I feel Iām not ready for kids now, I want my degree and have a nice savings built, but Bruce isnāt going to get any younger. So, Iām not sure whatās going to happen with kiddos,ā she said.
āTo those who donāt understand the relationship, this answer changes with what they have an issue with. If someone is weirded out by the age gap I just tell them Iām an old soul and Bruce is a young soul. I donāt feel an age gap, I only see it.
āIām not a gold digger by any means, I donāt have ādaddy issuesā, and the relationship is not strictly intimate or anything of that sort.
āItās a normal relationship that anyone else has just we have an age gap difference. Iām not going to stop loving someone because of how someone else āfeelsā about my relationship.
āI donāt recall too many times when someone had pointed out our age difference, but most people have only had nice things to say. No oneās ever been mean per-say, but we have been asked if he is my dad before.
āNo biggy, we just laugh it off.ā
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