By Liana Jacob
MEET the trio who are in a polyamorous relationship despite the two women being mistaken for SISTERS due to their red hair and are all planning on living together and possibly getting married.
Planet fitness supervisor, Charlotte Gary (25), from Georgia, USA, first met her girlfriend, Amberly Worrell (29), from Florida, in middle school in 2005, but the pair didn’t become close friends until she left high school through one of Amberly’s friends at the time.
Charlotte met her fiancé, Gabriel Baxter (29), from Georgia, USA, in 2011 through Charlotte’s girlfriend at the time, when she was in a lesbian relationship.
It wasn’t until 2016, after Charlotte was three-years into her relationship with Gabriel Baxter (29), from Georgia, USA, that Amberly joined their relationship.
Originally, they have described their relationship as ‘V’, a polyamorous relationship involving three people, in which one person is romantically or sexually involved with two partners who are not romantically or sexually involved with each other.
All three of them have now developed romantic feelings for each other and are planning on living together and possibly get married. Since embarking on their polyamorous relationship and walking together in public, Charlotte and Amberly have been mistaken for sisters by strangers.
“When people see us together they usually think Amberly and I are sisters which is funny, but we tell them no we are all together. We get strange looks, but I’m used to that being a redhead,” Charlotte said.
“Well, most of the time when I tell people about us they think that I’m just joking until they hear it from Charlotte too,” Gabriel said.
“Other times people have been confused or just in disbelief of it all like it can’t be possible for that to work.”
“Most people assume that Charlotte and I are sisters because of our red hair, so often times, they’re surprised or shocked,” Amberly said.
“Once they realise that we are all together, they tell Gabby how lucky he is. My family just wants me to be unequivocally happy.
“They support me in their own ways, but I don’t feel it necessary to tell them every detail of my relationships.
“They know that I am with Charlotte, and that my lifestyle is unconventional to them due to the generational gap.”
Charlotte explained how she became involved in the “V” relationship.
“I met Amberly when I was in middle school, but we didn’t become really Good friends until I was out of high school dating one of her friends,” she said.
“Gabriel and I met through the same friend at the time she was walking home in the rain. Gabriel stopped to help her and that’s when I saw him – I think I fell in love with both of them or knew I was going to be with them both the day I met them.
“I know it sounds silly, but I could feel it. I met Amberly and Gabriel years apart. I had all the same friends as them but because we were a few years apart, I never met them properly until I was older.”
Gabriel explains how their polyamorous relationship formed.
“After some issues in our relationships at the time, we became friends and supported each other during our hardships and it developed into where we are now,” Gabriel said.
“I was friends with Amberly from high school and one day Charlotte said she wanted to ‘stop and see her friend’ at the home owners office of the community, I didn’t know then she meant Amberly.
“We started to hang out together with her girlfriend and then after some time we were all talking about being polyamorous and what it meant to us.”
All three of their families have given them their blessing to the threesome, and they have since decided to share their life on social media.
Charlotte and Gabriel live together, are engaged to be married in October this year and are planning on adapting their lifestyle to accommodate Amberly in their marital home.
“For me, polyamory is when you have a genuine emotional and intellectual connection with someone,” Gabriel said.
“After a while we all had this connection like we all just had these feelings and we have slowly become a close family unit that love each other and actively attempt to participate with each other in the relationship.
“Polyamory is about loving more than one person because you just can’t help it and your partners also agree with the idea and comfortable with the arraignment.
“I am engaged to Charlotte and Amberly is dating Charlotte, but she isn’t completely opposed to dating me as well.”
Amberly describes her definition of polyamory.
“Polyamory is love and support. It’s an emotional connection, shared between all parties involved with ample amounts of communication,” Amberly said.
“A few years ago, I was in another relationship that claimed to be polyamorous but in reality; it was simply an excuse for my partner to cheat and do as they wished without checking to see if I was being hurt in the process.
“Polyamory requires a great deal of communication, talking, making sure that everyone is on board one-hundred-percent. If someone is having issues, then we work it out together and come to an agreement or a compromise.”
Charlotte describes how she felt when she met her girlfriend and fiancé.
“I fell in love with Gabriel and amberly at first sight, but I didn’t act on my feelings until I went through really bad break up with ex and so did they,” Charlotte said.
“My family fully accepts our relationship. My mum and dad just want us all to love and be happy. I know a lot of people do not agree with our lifestyle, but I don’t really care how others view us because it’s our life to live.
“I would like to also have a wedding for the three of us and change our names to match – I know being married to more than one person is illegal but it’s just a piece of paper to us.
“We plan on moving Amberly in when she is ready, and we’ve got to get a bigger bed. We all try and just be there for each other and help out when we can.”
Despite their unconventional relationship, none of them have jealousy issues within the relationship and Gabriel has encouraged Charlotte and Amberly’s relationship.
“I don’t really get jealous of their relationship, if anything I’m their biggest cheerleader. When Charlotte first told me, she was going to ask Amberly if she wanted to pursue a relationship with her, I told her ‘I hope she says yes. How awesome would that be’,” Gabriel said.
“When we do have feelings like jealousy we all sit down and talk about it and try our best to voice our feelings and concerns with one another.
“But that has only happened once or twice, and it was more about communicating our feelings for one another than any issues we might have had, and we don’t really have any disagreements.”
Amberly explains how she feels in the relationship regarding jealousy and disagreements.
“We just strive to push each other to be the best versions of ourselves. Disagreements happen with any relationship, but we talk about them. If we have to agree to disagree, then that’s alright. We move on,” Amberly said.
“Polyamory is not for everyone. It takes twice as much work as a monogamous relationship because you have more than just yourself to look after. The main point I’d like to stress is just how important communication is.”
“Love is love. If you don’t know about being polyamorous, do your research. There are poly meet up groups where you can find others like you and don’t be afraid to be yourself,” Charlotte said.