By Rebecca Drew
THIS SEXY polyamorous triad are planning a three-way commitment ceremony after forming two years ago as part of their vow that jealousy is a “NON-ISSUE” and raise their future kids in a ‘new-nuclear’ family with the hubby-to-be regularly receiving high-fives from envious guys when the throuple are together in public.
Lindsay Schoepf (27) and Brittney and Terry Stroup (26 and 28 respectively) from Glendora, California, USA, grew up in the same town with Brittney and Lindsay being best friends throughout high school and Lindsay and Terry dating for a brief period.
In 2011, Lindsay moved to Arizona due to another relationship she was in, Brittney and Terry started going out during sixth form and were married in the same year. Moving back to California in 2016, Lindsay moved in with Terry and Brittney as their roommate and romance soon blossomed between them.
Not one member of the relationship had heard of polyamory before they started dating and it was actually Terry and Brittney who brought up the concept with Lindsay and they decided to form a triad to share their love between all of them.
Terry and Brittney proposed to Lindsay on their one year anniversary in October last year and they are now planning to have a commitment ceremony and want to start a family and raise their children as a solid triad.
“We all grew up in the same town. Brittney and I were best friends and I actually dated Terry in high school for a little bit. We weren’t that serious, and it didn’t last long,” explained Lindsay.
“Brittney began dating him during our junior year and they got married a few years later. In the meantime, I moved to another state because of a relationship I was in.
“I moved back home and became roommates with them. We spent a lot of time hanging out together and separately and feelings just developed from there.
“Polyamory means that you don’t have to love only one person the way that everyone has always told you. We love each other for the different things we bring to the relationship.
“Human beings are capable of so much love and now that we are together it seems so stifling to only have those feelings for one person at a time.
“We each bring something different to the relationship. So, this results in a balance that might be harder to achieve in a two-person dynamic. When one of us wants to sit something out, the other is never alone.
“We all have our time together, and then there are the separate relationships between each of us. Once we found that balance the rest felt natural.
“For us, we never had even heard of polyamory before we started dating, so none of us have ever experienced this before.
“Honestly the question came up between Terry and Brittney, ‘Could we just date her? Is that a thing?’.
“We agreed that a triad was what worked for us, because it’s not about bringing other people into the relationship, it started as a love between the three of us and that it what it will always be.
“We are planning to have a wedding or commitment ceremony in the next couple of years. We have talked about having kids. We have seen plenty of triads successfully raise families together and it’s beautiful.”
Despite knowing each other for 12 years, Lindsay, Brittney and Terry have been together romantically for two years now and most of their respective family members are approving of their triad relationship. Men often congratulate Terry in the street with high fives and lots of questions.
When asked if jealousy has ever been an issue for them, Lindsay said that the three have learnt to work through any feelings of envy.
“I would say 95% of our families are accepting. There are a couple of people that are not accepting for religious reasons,” said Lindsay.
“That is their choice, not ours. Luckily, we have amazing families (mostly) that understand that this relationship does not affect them and they love all of us.
“We get some stares when out in public. Terry gets a lot of high fives. People are generally pretty accepting if you give them the chance though.
“Jealousy was a brief issue in the beginning, and the only way to really deal with it was head on.
“We would sit down and talk about it and try to figure out the best way to get through it. Jealousy is basically a non-issue at this point. We know where we stand with each other.”
The three have matching tattoos that represent their love for each other, one is a triangle to symbolise their triad and the other is a moth that symbolises that their relationship was a flame worth getting burned for.
Finally, Lindsay shared her words of advice to others who want to pursue a triad relationship.
“It’s simple, love who you love,” she said.
“People will always try to shove their opinion down your throat, but believe in what you have enough to not care.”